“Passion, it lies in all of us, sleeping... waiting... and though unwanted... unbidden... it will stir... open its jaws and howl. It speaks to us... guides us... passion rules us all, and we obey. What other choice do we have? Passion is the source of our finest moments. The joy of love... the clarity of hatred... and the ecstasy of grief. It hurts sometimes more than we can bear. If we could live without passion maybe we'd know some kind of peace... but we would be hollow... Empty rooms shuttered and dank. Without passion we'd be truly dead.”
Quote by Joss Whedon
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Friday, November 27, 2009
Mortality
It scares the shit out of me when I hear that a person close to me has passed away. I stop and think about all the conversations that we've had. I think about all the times that I saw that person, and listened to their thoughts, dreams, wishes, and problems. I realize that I will never get to hear that voice again or see them again and it scares me!
What will people remember about me?? How long will people remember me? I haven't done anything that would put my name in the history books. I haven't invented something that will be synonymous with my name.
I have always wanted to do a movie of my life that would be played at my funeral. I want people to see what I was about, what was important to me, and who was important to me. I have gone to too many funerals where no one says anything about the person who has died.
As for me, I want a party!!! I want people to say what they really thought about me, it's not like I'm going to care.
Do you ever wonder if your presence on this planet has influenced anything. I think all the time, "if I weren't here, would things for the people I've met be different?" I don't know exactly how to explain. I know that's kind of a "duh" statement, but how exactly would it be different?
I wonder if my X would have ever joined the marines?? Or gotten out of the Marines to join the Army? Would he have ever met his current wife? They seem to be very happy with each other.
Would my neighbor have succeeded in killing himself if I wasn't there for him to talk to? Would my girlfriends have had as good a time without me, clubbin, bbqing, meeting guys??? If I hadn't opened my door for a friend, where would she have gone? Out on the streets? Into another bad situation?
If I weren't here would the students that I have taught been different? Would they have chosen different paths?
Would the men that I have gone out with ever found their true love?? I have that effect on men, it seems that when they break up with me they find and marry the next person... weird?!
We never realize the profound effect we have on each other. I have always tried to live my life to the fullest, love to the fullest, and find the positive in most things! You just never know when your last day on this planet may be, so I try and let all those that mean something to me, know just how much I care about them!
To all those who have touched my life....THANK YOU!
To all those that have touched my heart....KNOW THAT I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU!
To all those that have crossed me.... I FORGIVE YOU!
To all those that I have crossed.... I AM SORRY!
I will always hold on to this philosophy: "Work like you don't need the money; Love like you've never been hurt; Dance like nobody's watching."
Try to always have a positive impact on a person, because I believe it's easier to tear a person apart then it is to build them back up!
What will people remember about me?? How long will people remember me? I haven't done anything that would put my name in the history books. I haven't invented something that will be synonymous with my name.
I have always wanted to do a movie of my life that would be played at my funeral. I want people to see what I was about, what was important to me, and who was important to me. I have gone to too many funerals where no one says anything about the person who has died.
As for me, I want a party!!! I want people to say what they really thought about me, it's not like I'm going to care.
Do you ever wonder if your presence on this planet has influenced anything. I think all the time, "if I weren't here, would things for the people I've met be different?" I don't know exactly how to explain. I know that's kind of a "duh" statement, but how exactly would it be different?
I wonder if my X would have ever joined the marines?? Or gotten out of the Marines to join the Army? Would he have ever met his current wife? They seem to be very happy with each other.
Would my neighbor have succeeded in killing himself if I wasn't there for him to talk to? Would my girlfriends have had as good a time without me, clubbin, bbqing, meeting guys??? If I hadn't opened my door for a friend, where would she have gone? Out on the streets? Into another bad situation?
If I weren't here would the students that I have taught been different? Would they have chosen different paths?
Would the men that I have gone out with ever found their true love?? I have that effect on men, it seems that when they break up with me they find and marry the next person... weird?!
We never realize the profound effect we have on each other. I have always tried to live my life to the fullest, love to the fullest, and find the positive in most things! You just never know when your last day on this planet may be, so I try and let all those that mean something to me, know just how much I care about them!
To all those who have touched my life....THANK YOU!
To all those that have touched my heart....KNOW THAT I WILL ALWAYS LOVE YOU!
To all those that have crossed me.... I FORGIVE YOU!
To all those that I have crossed.... I AM SORRY!
I will always hold on to this philosophy: "Work like you don't need the money; Love like you've never been hurt; Dance like nobody's watching."
Try to always have a positive impact on a person, because I believe it's easier to tear a person apart then it is to build them back up!
Monday, November 23, 2009
Let the feelings go...
To need you is hard for me,
I have always taken care of everything,
it's hard to let go and trust in another.
Life is easy, relationships for me are hard.
I find that I end up saying all the wrong things,
or saying nothing at all.
I have always taken care of everything,
it's hard to let go and trust in another.
Life is easy, relationships for me are hard.
I find that I end up saying all the wrong things,
or saying nothing at all.
Wednesday, November 18, 2009
Why be in a relationship?
I wonder, why be in a relationship with another person if your still going to be lonely?
Isn't the point of being in a relationship so that you can BE with another person?
I mean, why start something if you know that time is your enemy?
Every moment that could be spent together, should be spent together... no matter how small a time that may be.
For some, just hearing the other person's voice is considered time spent together. Getting an unexpected visit, even for just a few hours is precious. Having your phone ring with a text message, saying how much they miss you is enough. Planning a unexpected meeting somewhere for a few minutes, just to look into each others eyes, is magical.
We get into relationships for the excitement of it, the getting to know a whole other person and what they like to do? What surprises are they going to have for you and you for them? Learning how much you are alike or not alike? Talking about nothing and everything?
Relationships are all about the butterflies and feeling like you are the only two people on the planet that feel this way about each other. Relationships are about being able to accept the flaws and faults of the other person and still have those butterflies.
Relationships are also about planning a possible future together. That does not necessarily mean long term, but what are we doing next weekend, next month, or next year.
Can a person expect to be in a relationship if there is no time spent on the relationship?? I think the old saying is true, " you get out of it, what you put into it".
We are all busy in our day to day lives, and we can get caught up in the mundane of it, but just take a little time out for the one you love and let them know just how much you care.
One shouldn't feel lonely if they are in a relationship that truly matters.
Isn't the point of being in a relationship so that you can BE with another person?
I mean, why start something if you know that time is your enemy?
Every moment that could be spent together, should be spent together... no matter how small a time that may be.
For some, just hearing the other person's voice is considered time spent together. Getting an unexpected visit, even for just a few hours is precious. Having your phone ring with a text message, saying how much they miss you is enough. Planning a unexpected meeting somewhere for a few minutes, just to look into each others eyes, is magical.
We get into relationships for the excitement of it, the getting to know a whole other person and what they like to do? What surprises are they going to have for you and you for them? Learning how much you are alike or not alike? Talking about nothing and everything?
Relationships are all about the butterflies and feeling like you are the only two people on the planet that feel this way about each other. Relationships are about being able to accept the flaws and faults of the other person and still have those butterflies.
Relationships are also about planning a possible future together. That does not necessarily mean long term, but what are we doing next weekend, next month, or next year.
Can a person expect to be in a relationship if there is no time spent on the relationship?? I think the old saying is true, " you get out of it, what you put into it".
We are all busy in our day to day lives, and we can get caught up in the mundane of it, but just take a little time out for the one you love and let them know just how much you care.
One shouldn't feel lonely if they are in a relationship that truly matters.
Queen or Bitch???
Question? Is the saying, "treat a queen like a bitch and a bitch like a queen" true?
I have found, in my small little world, that this is actually a true statement!
I have seen women, who are complete bitches to their partner, get treated like a queen. Is this what men really want? Is it for the thrill of never knowing whether or not your respected as a partner, the turn on?? Do men prefer to have a women that argues and treats them like crap?
I know of three women that treat their men like dirt! Yet the men stick around and don't seem to mind. I am confused?? Why?
I would think that men would prefer to be treated as a man, not a dog. I would think that respect for the other person is a top priority, not seeing who can out tongue lash the other?
Maybe I live in a fantasy world, where love and respect for each other is more important than arguing and belittling each other.
Why do men, and women, stay in these relationships?
Why do men treat women who are nice, thoughtful, respectful, and caring like a bitch?
I never have understood that.
Aren't we always told to treat others like we want to be treated? So what do you do when it doesn't happen? And what do you tell a friend that is in a toxic relationship and can't get out?
What do you do when you are in a relationship that is not appreciated or respected?
I know, the easy answer is... get out! But what if it isn't that easy?
I don't mean to sound like an idealist, but as a women... why can't the nice girls meet a nice guy and vice versa. Why do women feel they need to control a man?
Is there some underlying thrill for a guy to have a girl tell him everything to do?
Do men secretly need a women to tell them what to do???
Is it the thrill of the hunt????
I secretly think that it is... Where's my shotgun!
I have found, in my small little world, that this is actually a true statement!
I have seen women, who are complete bitches to their partner, get treated like a queen. Is this what men really want? Is it for the thrill of never knowing whether or not your respected as a partner, the turn on?? Do men prefer to have a women that argues and treats them like crap?
I know of three women that treat their men like dirt! Yet the men stick around and don't seem to mind. I am confused?? Why?
I would think that men would prefer to be treated as a man, not a dog. I would think that respect for the other person is a top priority, not seeing who can out tongue lash the other?
Maybe I live in a fantasy world, where love and respect for each other is more important than arguing and belittling each other.
Why do men, and women, stay in these relationships?
Why do men treat women who are nice, thoughtful, respectful, and caring like a bitch?
I never have understood that.
Aren't we always told to treat others like we want to be treated? So what do you do when it doesn't happen? And what do you tell a friend that is in a toxic relationship and can't get out?
What do you do when you are in a relationship that is not appreciated or respected?
I know, the easy answer is... get out! But what if it isn't that easy?
I don't mean to sound like an idealist, but as a women... why can't the nice girls meet a nice guy and vice versa. Why do women feel they need to control a man?
Is there some underlying thrill for a guy to have a girl tell him everything to do?
Do men secretly need a women to tell them what to do???
Is it the thrill of the hunt????
I secretly think that it is... Where's my shotgun!
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Questions...
Why are the important questions in a relationship the hardest to ask?
How do you know when what you are asking is the right question?
How do I ask someone if they are in a relationship for just the physical part of it or the emotional part? Or both?
How do I ask if the questions I am having are because I am insecure or because I am scared of the possibilities?
How do I ask, and not run the risk of sounding needy or desperate?
Why does it have to be so hard to meet, fall in love, and get the happily ever after?
Why can't things just be...
Why do you have to work so hard to just be happy?
How do you know when what you are asking is the right question?
How do I ask someone if they are in a relationship for just the physical part of it or the emotional part? Or both?
How do I ask if the questions I am having are because I am insecure or because I am scared of the possibilities?
How do I ask, and not run the risk of sounding needy or desperate?
Why does it have to be so hard to meet, fall in love, and get the happily ever after?
Why can't things just be...
Why do you have to work so hard to just be happy?
Friday, October 23, 2009
the X factor
Life was good until recently.
My X and his family have moved back into the area.
I recently ran into him and his wife.
Why is it that when you see someone like that, it brings up all the dreaded memories that you have tried really hard to bury?
The feelings of mistrust, insecurity, and heartache come back like it was yesterday. You hear the heartache all over again.
How is that one person can make you feel so low?
My X and his family have moved back into the area.
I recently ran into him and his wife.
Why is it that when you see someone like that, it brings up all the dreaded memories that you have tried really hard to bury?
The feelings of mistrust, insecurity, and heartache come back like it was yesterday. You hear the heartache all over again.
How is that one person can make you feel so low?
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
The Feeling...
The feeling I get when you are around is euphoric.
From the smallest look in your eyes, to the excitement in your voice,
it sends me to a place I haven't felt in a long time.
The feel of your kiss, the look on your face, the smile that tells me just how much you care.
It feels right, it feels natural... no pretending, no lies...
I love that you are a man's man. That you don't hold anything back, and that you are passionate in your beliefs and wants.
I love that you open my door!!! That you ask me what I want or need.
I love that you trusted our relationship enough to introduce me to your girls.
I love that you want to include me in the things that are important in your life.
I love that you have helped me to find the passion that was missing in my life!
I love that you are supportive in the things that I want to do.
I just love you!
From the smallest look in your eyes, to the excitement in your voice,
it sends me to a place I haven't felt in a long time.
The feel of your kiss, the look on your face, the smile that tells me just how much you care.
It feels right, it feels natural... no pretending, no lies...
I love that you are a man's man. That you don't hold anything back, and that you are passionate in your beliefs and wants.
I love that you open my door!!! That you ask me what I want or need.
I love that you trusted our relationship enough to introduce me to your girls.
I love that you want to include me in the things that are important in your life.
I love that you have helped me to find the passion that was missing in my life!
I love that you are supportive in the things that I want to do.
I just love you!
stress...
They say that money is the root of all evil, I think it is root of all stress!
Where once I had enough to get what I wanted, now I barely have enough to pay the bills!
I feel like a failure as a parent because I can't get my son what he wants or even what he needs! I used to enjoy being able to buy things for people or lend them money when they most needed it. I always figured that what comes around goes around. Now I am hoping that I win the lottery and not have to worry.
I wish I had enough money to just get my son a used car and afford the insurance, I wish I had enough to get my roof redone on my house, I wish I had enough money to get new tires for my car, I wish I had enough money to get my son his senior ring, I wish I had enough money to pay off some of my bills!
The stress of not having enough money would and has driven some people to the extreme! I just wonder, why???
I have actually gotten to the point of telling the man of my dreams that we might need to take a break for a while, so that I can look for a third job! Why do we work so hard for so little??? Why do we put relationships on hold, and force our kids to work for our short comings??? I don't want my son to work just yet... he will be working for the rest of his life, he will have to deal with this stress someday... just not now.
I am still optimistic in that all things work out the way they are supposed to, but it still sucks in the mean time!!!
Where once I had enough to get what I wanted, now I barely have enough to pay the bills!
I feel like a failure as a parent because I can't get my son what he wants or even what he needs! I used to enjoy being able to buy things for people or lend them money when they most needed it. I always figured that what comes around goes around. Now I am hoping that I win the lottery and not have to worry.
I wish I had enough money to just get my son a used car and afford the insurance, I wish I had enough to get my roof redone on my house, I wish I had enough money to get new tires for my car, I wish I had enough money to get my son his senior ring, I wish I had enough money to pay off some of my bills!
The stress of not having enough money would and has driven some people to the extreme! I just wonder, why???
I have actually gotten to the point of telling the man of my dreams that we might need to take a break for a while, so that I can look for a third job! Why do we work so hard for so little??? Why do we put relationships on hold, and force our kids to work for our short comings??? I don't want my son to work just yet... he will be working for the rest of his life, he will have to deal with this stress someday... just not now.
I am still optimistic in that all things work out the way they are supposed to, but it still sucks in the mean time!!!
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Exciting new year?
So far so good, have I jinxed myself??
I feel like this year will be the one to remember!
If I can hold on.
I am super excited about the students I have! They have so far shown me that they can actually think for themselves! WOW!
They have background knowledge of the events that we are going to study!
I feel like I have won the lottery!
I am starting this year with so many positives...
The bubble has to burst at some point or is it supposed to be like this?
I feel like this year will be the one to remember!
If I can hold on.
I am super excited about the students I have! They have so far shown me that they can actually think for themselves! WOW!
They have background knowledge of the events that we are going to study!
I feel like I have won the lottery!
I am starting this year with so many positives...
The bubble has to burst at some point or is it supposed to be like this?
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Not knowing...
Why is it when people are scared they argue?
Why do people fight with one another?
Honesty seems to take a back seat to emotion, why?
To me the innocence of a relationship gets lost when you have an argument.
Are arguments meant to show you just how you feel about someone? Does it show you that you really do care deeply for that person, or maybe you don't care at all?
What do you say when it's over? Do you forgive and forget? Do you learn from it? Does it show you the true emotion of someone?
A brick wall is very easy to build but extremely hard to tear down.
Why?
Why do people fight with one another?
Honesty seems to take a back seat to emotion, why?
To me the innocence of a relationship gets lost when you have an argument.
Are arguments meant to show you just how you feel about someone? Does it show you that you really do care deeply for that person, or maybe you don't care at all?
What do you say when it's over? Do you forgive and forget? Do you learn from it? Does it show you the true emotion of someone?
A brick wall is very easy to build but extremely hard to tear down.
Why?
Thursday, August 6, 2009
Six days and counting...
Six days and counting before the summer officially ends!
I am looking forward to it and then I am not. This summer has been very interesting and I will be sad to see it come to an end.
I feel that I have accomplished a lot but then again, I feel like I haven't done much of anything.
I am afraid of things changing too much and there will be little time for the things that have developed. I am afraid of falling into the same 'ol routine and only having one day, Saturday, to do anything fun.
The school year hasn't even started and I am already looking forward to the first holiday... Thanksgiving!
I hope this year goes by as fast as the summer has!
Just get ready for me to rant and rave about the kids, other teachers, and of course the administration!
Good luck to those in the educational field, may the force be with you!
I am looking forward to it and then I am not. This summer has been very interesting and I will be sad to see it come to an end.
I feel that I have accomplished a lot but then again, I feel like I haven't done much of anything.
I am afraid of things changing too much and there will be little time for the things that have developed. I am afraid of falling into the same 'ol routine and only having one day, Saturday, to do anything fun.
The school year hasn't even started and I am already looking forward to the first holiday... Thanksgiving!
I hope this year goes by as fast as the summer has!
Just get ready for me to rant and rave about the kids, other teachers, and of course the administration!
Good luck to those in the educational field, may the force be with you!
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Walls....
The trick is to be true to one's own self and keep the faith that the person who finally showed up is supposed to be in your life for that moment and hopefully for more moments to come. If we live in our past experiences too deeply, we might miss the moment that was intended to place us in the clouds. If we become so cynical and not believe ourselves the chance to be loved, then we doom ourselves to eternal misery.
After reading Wonko's post again, I have to comment on this paragraph. I wish I could have thought of it.
I believe that a lot of my failures in past relationships has come from living too much in the past. I think that no matter what anyone says, relationships take a little piece of your soul, every time they don't work out. This is why in a lot of songs artist will refer to "building a wall around my heart". I think we are all guilty of it. I probably built the biggest wall! Too afraid of feeling that pain again...
I became afraid to let someone in! I was subconsciously "dooming myself to eternal misery"! Even with my last relationship (the one that moved in unexpectedly ), I never fully allowed him in, thank God! That turned out to be a total nightmare! But I'll never forget my mother telling me that that relationship was the key that unlocked the door to the possibility of allowing myself a real relationship.
The man in my life now... makes me walk in the clouds! For the first time I am not afraid! Not afraid to hope, wish, dream... that everyday I feel like I did the day I met him.
I want to love him more tomorrow than I did today!
After reading Wonko's post again, I have to comment on this paragraph. I wish I could have thought of it.
I believe that a lot of my failures in past relationships has come from living too much in the past. I think that no matter what anyone says, relationships take a little piece of your soul, every time they don't work out. This is why in a lot of songs artist will refer to "building a wall around my heart". I think we are all guilty of it. I probably built the biggest wall! Too afraid of feeling that pain again...
I became afraid to let someone in! I was subconsciously "dooming myself to eternal misery"! Even with my last relationship (the one that moved in unexpectedly ), I never fully allowed him in, thank God! That turned out to be a total nightmare! But I'll never forget my mother telling me that that relationship was the key that unlocked the door to the possibility of allowing myself a real relationship.
The man in my life now... makes me walk in the clouds! For the first time I am not afraid! Not afraid to hope, wish, dream... that everyday I feel like I did the day I met him.
I want to love him more tomorrow than I did today!
Friday, July 31, 2009
The dreams have started...
I know I am not the only teacher that has "nightmares" before the start of the school year. Why after teaching so many years do I still get anxious? Are these unresolved issues from the previous year? Are they left over frustrations from the previous years kiddo's? Or is it that I am working out issues with the adults that I teach with, maybe the dreams have nothing at all to do with the kiddo's. Maybe it's the anxiety of having to deal with the same dumb ass people again!
You know education really does not have to be this difficult. Why does everyone feel they have the answer to our educational "problem"? There really is no problem, if politicians and school boards just allow the teachers to do their damn jobs!
If a student doesn't want to go to school, great... go out and get a damn job. Don't allow them to get on welfare until they have at least contributed to taxes that pay for welfare or they actually get their education.
Students don't want to behave... kick them out!!! If they would rather disturb and distract other students who do value their education, then get the flip out and GO TO WORK!!!! Sooner or later these same students are going to be sitting in a GED class wishing they had taken advantage of their education when they had a chance! I really find it hard to feel sorry for these kids, when there are kids in third world countries selling themselves for money, just to be able to pay for their education!
I think we should implement the "three strikes your out" rule for students... you screw up three times and your outta here!!!
OOOOOOOkkkaayyyyy... off my soap box for now, to be continued I'm sure... when school is in full swing!
You know education really does not have to be this difficult. Why does everyone feel they have the answer to our educational "problem"? There really is no problem, if politicians and school boards just allow the teachers to do their damn jobs!
If a student doesn't want to go to school, great... go out and get a damn job. Don't allow them to get on welfare until they have at least contributed to taxes that pay for welfare or they actually get their education.
Students don't want to behave... kick them out!!! If they would rather disturb and distract other students who do value their education, then get the flip out and GO TO WORK!!!! Sooner or later these same students are going to be sitting in a GED class wishing they had taken advantage of their education when they had a chance! I really find it hard to feel sorry for these kids, when there are kids in third world countries selling themselves for money, just to be able to pay for their education!
I think we should implement the "three strikes your out" rule for students... you screw up three times and your outta here!!!
OOOOOOOkkkaayyyyy... off my soap box for now, to be continued I'm sure... when school is in full swing!
Thursday, July 30, 2009
define clingy...
Guys say they don't want a girl who is clingy...
What does that mean?
What does clingy look like?
Do you hide your true feelings of wanting to be near that person?
Does it keep you from saying the things you really want to say?
Should it hinder your feelings towards that person?
How do you not say too much, but still say enough?
How do you show enough of yourself? What's the limit? Is there a limit?
Does all this really matter, when you look into each others eyes and just know, without saying a word?
What does that mean?
What does clingy look like?
Do you hide your true feelings of wanting to be near that person?
Does it keep you from saying the things you really want to say?
Should it hinder your feelings towards that person?
How do you not say too much, but still say enough?
How do you show enough of yourself? What's the limit? Is there a limit?
Does all this really matter, when you look into each others eyes and just know, without saying a word?
The right decision
hallelujah.... she has made the right decision!
The road to happiness will be long and hard.
Keep in mind however, the way you felt when you started this journey and remember that it is ok to not always agree.
Compromise is the key, individuality can still be achieved in a relationship.
Nothing says you have to act the same, look the same, or think the same.
Appreciate the differences and build on them.
Respect and trust in one another however, is key!
The road to happiness will be long and hard.
Keep in mind however, the way you felt when you started this journey and remember that it is ok to not always agree.
Compromise is the key, individuality can still be achieved in a relationship.
Nothing says you have to act the same, look the same, or think the same.
Appreciate the differences and build on them.
Respect and trust in one another however, is key!
The root of all evil...
Why is money the root of all evil?
Marriages break up over it,
Companies rise or fall because of it,
People will sell their souls for it!
Why can't we live in a society that bases wealth on the common good, instead of the individual gain?
I guess my real concern here is that a very close relative of mine is making the biggest mistake of her life, based on money!
I wish there was something I could do to make her see the mistake she's about to make. Why do we insist on learning everything the hard way??
Why can't I show her in a crystal ball the effect of her decision, not only on herself but the rest of the family as well!
I understand her need to be able to take care of herself and her child, but there are other ways besides moving 400 miles away.
At what point do you just wash your hands of the whole thing and hope that she doesn't fall flat on her face, crying to come back home.
I see what is going to happen; she will move far away(asking for money to do it because she hasn't saved up anything to do it on her own), have no support whatsoever, realize that it is harder than it looks and then beg for someone to come bail her out and move her back home!!
Money isn't everything! Family, friends, people that will be there for you when you are sick, lonely, tired, or broke is what should be important. Independence is a great thing when you can do it on your own.
Marriages break up over it,
Companies rise or fall because of it,
People will sell their souls for it!
Why can't we live in a society that bases wealth on the common good, instead of the individual gain?
I guess my real concern here is that a very close relative of mine is making the biggest mistake of her life, based on money!
I wish there was something I could do to make her see the mistake she's about to make. Why do we insist on learning everything the hard way??
Why can't I show her in a crystal ball the effect of her decision, not only on herself but the rest of the family as well!
I understand her need to be able to take care of herself and her child, but there are other ways besides moving 400 miles away.
At what point do you just wash your hands of the whole thing and hope that she doesn't fall flat on her face, crying to come back home.
I see what is going to happen; she will move far away(asking for money to do it because she hasn't saved up anything to do it on her own), have no support whatsoever, realize that it is harder than it looks and then beg for someone to come bail her out and move her back home!!
Money isn't everything! Family, friends, people that will be there for you when you are sick, lonely, tired, or broke is what should be important. Independence is a great thing when you can do it on your own.
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
School again...
Already people are asking me when school is starting! I tell them, "too soon" they tell me, "not soon enough"
I do enjoy my summers, but honestly...
I am ready to get back to work, back to my routine and the predictability of it. I have to say that being able to get up whenever, do whatever, and go to bed whenever... gets boring.
I helped work on a house my mother bought. The time went by entirely too fast! And I still have a lot of work to do. But I am ready to see what challenges there will be this year.
Eager to see if this year continues to be as surprising as this summer was!
To my fellow educators...
may the force be with you! We continue to go through changes in our district and I just hope and pray we come out of this year ALIVE!
I do enjoy my summers, but honestly...
I am ready to get back to work, back to my routine and the predictability of it. I have to say that being able to get up whenever, do whatever, and go to bed whenever... gets boring.
I helped work on a house my mother bought. The time went by entirely too fast! And I still have a lot of work to do. But I am ready to see what challenges there will be this year.
Eager to see if this year continues to be as surprising as this summer was!
To my fellow educators...
may the force be with you! We continue to go through changes in our district and I just hope and pray we come out of this year ALIVE!
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
When you just know...
How is it people can meet and fall in love instantly??
What is it that makes it possible?
Can it be explained? Can you read about it somewhere?
Do you just trust your instincts that it is what it is?
How do you not look into someones eyes and wonder, "what the hell took you so long to get here!".
Do we go through all the "other" relationships to learn how to appreciate the one that is really going to matter?
What is it that makes it possible?
Can it be explained? Can you read about it somewhere?
Do you just trust your instincts that it is what it is?
How do you not look into someones eyes and wonder, "what the hell took you so long to get here!".
Do we go through all the "other" relationships to learn how to appreciate the one that is really going to matter?
The wonder of Facebook
It's official, I am now on Facebook! Not sure what the hell I am doing, but it is great to get in touch with people I haven't seen in a long time!
Truly though, I think I would rather blog!
Truly though, I think I would rather blog!
Monday, July 6, 2009
Birthday... 40! Yikes
Ok, so the birthday thing came and went!
Not what I was expecting in so many ways!
The family totally fell through, I thought for sure someone was going to throw me a "wake" and make everyone dress in black and so on... no such luck!
The only bright part to my birthday was YOU! You know who you are...
WOW...
A girl could get used to being spoiled this way! You have set the bar very high, and I only hope that I can do the same for you! Thank you again!
40 is the new 20 right???
Not what I was expecting in so many ways!
The family totally fell through, I thought for sure someone was going to throw me a "wake" and make everyone dress in black and so on... no such luck!
The only bright part to my birthday was YOU! You know who you are...
WOW...
A girl could get used to being spoiled this way! You have set the bar very high, and I only hope that I can do the same for you! Thank you again!
40 is the new 20 right???
so much to say...
I will wait for you. It seems that when I share my emotions with someone, I end up getting slapped in the face. Why is it women build up so many walls when it comes to relationships?? Do men do the same thing?
I still believe in love at first sight... I still believe that there truly is someone for everyone!
I think we get caught up in all the bullshit about what's appropriate and what isn't in a relationship. I don't think enough couples talk about the REAL issues... like, who's going to cook dinner? Who's going to put the kids to bed? Who's going to mow the yard, change the oil, wash the clothes....and the list goes on. I think that couples who can honestly talk about what the expectations are are the ones that make it. The couples who talk instead of argue survive, those that remember why they are with that person in the first place.
Eyes tell the story... I think a few of you would agree, that you can tell exactly how a person is feeling just by looking into their eyes.
Question: Is there a difference between sex and making love??? I have always thought there was! I believe you can't make love to someone unless you are absolutely 100% in love with them??? And do you hurt someones feelings when you say that it's only sex?? The physical part is still there, just not the break your heart later, stomp all over it and pour salt in it to make it hurt just a little bit more, part! To me it is a very big step in a relationship to actually want to make love, you not only put the physical into it, but the emotional... you open yourself up and become vulnerable to that person.
I don't know, my head is all messed up right now, I don't know which way is up or down... the once confident, charismatic, don't need a man cuz I can do it on my own!... has been reduced to a blubbering, babbling, pile of girliness muck (yes, girliness muck is in the dictionary, look it up!). What's a girl to do???
I still believe in love at first sight... I still believe that there truly is someone for everyone!
I think we get caught up in all the bullshit about what's appropriate and what isn't in a relationship. I don't think enough couples talk about the REAL issues... like, who's going to cook dinner? Who's going to put the kids to bed? Who's going to mow the yard, change the oil, wash the clothes....and the list goes on. I think that couples who can honestly talk about what the expectations are are the ones that make it. The couples who talk instead of argue survive, those that remember why they are with that person in the first place.
Eyes tell the story... I think a few of you would agree, that you can tell exactly how a person is feeling just by looking into their eyes.
Question: Is there a difference between sex and making love??? I have always thought there was! I believe you can't make love to someone unless you are absolutely 100% in love with them??? And do you hurt someones feelings when you say that it's only sex?? The physical part is still there, just not the break your heart later, stomp all over it and pour salt in it to make it hurt just a little bit more, part! To me it is a very big step in a relationship to actually want to make love, you not only put the physical into it, but the emotional... you open yourself up and become vulnerable to that person.
I don't know, my head is all messed up right now, I don't know which way is up or down... the once confident, charismatic, don't need a man cuz I can do it on my own!... has been reduced to a blubbering, babbling, pile of girliness muck (yes, girliness muck is in the dictionary, look it up!). What's a girl to do???
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
1969
http://www.music1969.com/
This is a cool site... need to figure out how to put the number on my actual post?!
This is a cool site... need to figure out how to put the number on my actual post?!
Turning 40????
Now that I have control of the computer, let me tell you what I am really having trouble with.... turning 40!
Where did that number come from anyway??? It seems like just yesterday that I was sitting at a bonfire hoping I wouldn't get caught drinking a wine cooler!
What happened to the time??
I feel like I have been cheated! I wanted to go clubbing more, listen to cool music and see the world... I wanted to attend at least one LOVE Fest in Europe before I was too old to go! I want to still go to a concert and not bitch and complain about people being in my way, while I sit my ass down!!!
I still want to experience the unending energy that I had in my 20's! I want to still have the energy to party all night and still make it to work in the morning without a 3 day hangover!
I still want to have sex.... and good 8 hour sex!!!!! Not this 20 minutes and then get the f*** off of me my hips hurt crap!
I know 40 is the new 30 but really... why do they make such a big deal out of it. You go to the party store and everything for your 40th is "Over the Hill"????
DAMN IT... I'M NOT DONE YET!!!!
Before you send me a comment telling me that age is how you feel.... YEAH I GET THAT!!! BUT I CAN STILL BITCH ABOUT IT! I have found that in the last year especially, things just don't move like they used to, bend like they used to, and parts of my body feel like they needs a lube job!!
I sure hope that we are reincarnated... cause I need to definitely do this again!!
I just hope that I can stay together long enough to find what I am truly looking for!!
Where did that number come from anyway??? It seems like just yesterday that I was sitting at a bonfire hoping I wouldn't get caught drinking a wine cooler!
What happened to the time??
I feel like I have been cheated! I wanted to go clubbing more, listen to cool music and see the world... I wanted to attend at least one LOVE Fest in Europe before I was too old to go! I want to still go to a concert and not bitch and complain about people being in my way, while I sit my ass down!!!
I still want to experience the unending energy that I had in my 20's! I want to still have the energy to party all night and still make it to work in the morning without a 3 day hangover!
I still want to have sex.... and good 8 hour sex!!!!! Not this 20 minutes and then get the f*** off of me my hips hurt crap!
I know 40 is the new 30 but really... why do they make such a big deal out of it. You go to the party store and everything for your 40th is "Over the Hill"????
DAMN IT... I'M NOT DONE YET!!!!
Before you send me a comment telling me that age is how you feel.... YEAH I GET THAT!!! BUT I CAN STILL BITCH ABOUT IT! I have found that in the last year especially, things just don't move like they used to, bend like they used to, and parts of my body feel like they needs a lube job!!
I sure hope that we are reincarnated... cause I need to definitely do this again!!
I just hope that I can stay together long enough to find what I am truly looking for!!
Monday, June 22, 2009
4U
You have bewitched me
body and soul
your eyes capture me
and hold me
your voice soothes me
and comforts me
your hands hold me
and keep me safe
your kiss...
awakens me
wondering what your world is like
what your life is like
what your true thoughts are
what it is you want out of life
I am in awe of your gentle nature and your kind soul
how you put others before yourself
and never question when a friend is in need.
body and soul
your eyes capture me
and hold me
your voice soothes me
and comforts me
your hands hold me
and keep me safe
your kiss...
awakens me
wondering what your world is like
what your life is like
what your true thoughts are
what it is you want out of life
I am in awe of your gentle nature and your kind soul
how you put others before yourself
and never question when a friend is in need.
laugh at myself...
I appreciate all the wonderful comments from BA and Wonko, you guys are the best! You introduced me to the world of blogging and I love it. I just can't help but laugh at some of my self pity, loathing, depressing entries. Can you tell school was in and the kids were driving me crazy....
AAAAhhhhhhh but summer is here and like Wonko once said, teachers don't measure the year from January to December, it really ends in June and the new year starts in August. I can't wait for a new batch of minds to corrupt!!! LOL.
AAAAhhhhhhh but summer is here and like Wonko once said, teachers don't measure the year from January to December, it really ends in June and the new year starts in August. I can't wait for a new batch of minds to corrupt!!! LOL.
Sunday, June 21, 2009
How much is too much
How do you know when it's too much?
How do people get into relationships too fast or too slow?
Are there rules written somewhere that actually tell you what you should or shouldn't say to someone? Or should you just be swept up in the moment?
Why do friends tell you to take a relationship slow?? What exactly does that mean? You would think that at my age these questions would be simple to answer but there not!
Can you be honest to a fault? Can you say too much? Or not enough? Can you have all the hope in the world that this will finally be the one and then turn and run because you are too scared?
A friend told me the other day that I should learn to just let go...
I think I might have to actually listen to that friend and see what happens...
How do people get into relationships too fast or too slow?
Are there rules written somewhere that actually tell you what you should or shouldn't say to someone? Or should you just be swept up in the moment?
Why do friends tell you to take a relationship slow?? What exactly does that mean? You would think that at my age these questions would be simple to answer but there not!
Can you be honest to a fault? Can you say too much? Or not enough? Can you have all the hope in the world that this will finally be the one and then turn and run because you are too scared?
A friend told me the other day that I should learn to just let go...
I think I might have to actually listen to that friend and see what happens...
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Still here
The rains have not washed me away yet.
So much that I want to say, just not sure where to start.
How do you help a friend that doesn't want to be helped?
How do you save a marriage that has no love?
How do find love and compassion in a job that sucks it out of you every day?
How do you make sense of a world that preaches love, tolerance, and peace but doesn't lead by example?
How do we save the planet when we can't even save ourselves?
How do you look a child in the eyes and tell them everything will be alright, when you have some much telling you it won't?
Where is hope? What does it look like?
What is life supposed to be about?
So much that I want to say, just not sure where to start.
How do you help a friend that doesn't want to be helped?
How do you save a marriage that has no love?
How do find love and compassion in a job that sucks it out of you every day?
How do you make sense of a world that preaches love, tolerance, and peace but doesn't lead by example?
How do we save the planet when we can't even save ourselves?
How do you look a child in the eyes and tell them everything will be alright, when you have some much telling you it won't?
Where is hope? What does it look like?
What is life supposed to be about?
Monday, February 9, 2009
Grammy's ...
While I enjoy all kinds of music and respect musicians for their styles, there was one person on last nights Grammy award show that really made me sick!
Let me say that I think a pregnant woman's body is beautiful because of what it is doing, creating life.
But last night rapper MIA, who's ready to pop her baby out any minute, made me want to crawl through the TV and tell her, "what the F***"!
She was wearing this sheer black outfit with black hot pants and big white pokadots on her butt, belly, and bra! You had to see it to believe it! You know the outfit was one thing, personally I think her stylist should be shot! And if it wasn't a stylists fault, then she needs to hire one! But when she was singing with the rest of the "rappers" she was undulating her body like she was having sex... it looked completely disgusting!
Usually things don't get to me, I chaperon middle school dances for cryin out loud, nothing shocks me anymore but seriously... she should have a little more respect for herself and try dancing in a mirror first to see what it will look like to others before she does it on TV.
And has anyone in America really heard the Robert Plant song/album??? Never knew it even existed! Personally I think that Coldplay should have won the last award!
Let me say that I think a pregnant woman's body is beautiful because of what it is doing, creating life.
But last night rapper MIA, who's ready to pop her baby out any minute, made me want to crawl through the TV and tell her, "what the F***"!
She was wearing this sheer black outfit with black hot pants and big white pokadots on her butt, belly, and bra! You had to see it to believe it! You know the outfit was one thing, personally I think her stylist should be shot! And if it wasn't a stylists fault, then she needs to hire one! But when she was singing with the rest of the "rappers" she was undulating her body like she was having sex... it looked completely disgusting!
Usually things don't get to me, I chaperon middle school dances for cryin out loud, nothing shocks me anymore but seriously... she should have a little more respect for herself and try dancing in a mirror first to see what it will look like to others before she does it on TV.
And has anyone in America really heard the Robert Plant song/album??? Never knew it even existed! Personally I think that Coldplay should have won the last award!
8 is enough...
Correct me if I'm wrong, but most all women have only two nipples, right?!! I am not into women so I don't have a great reference bank, but I could swear I've never seen a bra with 8 cups attached to it!
What on God's green earth makes this women want to have eight babies at one time!!
When I first heard about this story I thought, "holy cow"! But now I am fuming over this issue!
This women from California already has a bunch of kids, why would she bring eight more kids into this world? She's single and living at home!!! From what I heard on the news, mom is kicking her out of the house because of this last round of kids born.
What was her doctor thinking?????
All I have to say is... she better not ask for government assistance!! She knew good and well what she was getting into and I hope she's got some kind of trust fund to help her take care of all those kids!!! Don't put it off on tax payers to help with those kids! I mean really!!! I can barely keep up with one, what makes her think she's going to be able to take care of 15 kids?
When are people going to get it... take care of what you can afford!
What on God's green earth makes this women want to have eight babies at one time!!
When I first heard about this story I thought, "holy cow"! But now I am fuming over this issue!
This women from California already has a bunch of kids, why would she bring eight more kids into this world? She's single and living at home!!! From what I heard on the news, mom is kicking her out of the house because of this last round of kids born.
What was her doctor thinking?????
All I have to say is... she better not ask for government assistance!! She knew good and well what she was getting into and I hope she's got some kind of trust fund to help her take care of all those kids!!! Don't put it off on tax payers to help with those kids! I mean really!!! I can barely keep up with one, what makes her think she's going to be able to take care of 15 kids?
When are people going to get it... take care of what you can afford!
It's been a while...
Why is it when you really have something to say, your computer decides to crap out!
I am going to try and address just some of the issues that are REALLY bugging me.
THE BANK BAILOUT...
If you loan money to a company to help them out, should you be allowed to allocate where that money is to be spent? I mean, should the government have to tell the banks where they should spend the "borrowed" money or is it a no brainer? Personally I thought the money would be used to invest in things that would bring the value of those banks back into black. I certainly didn't think the banks would pay bonuses first!
Now, I am a single parent working two jobs, do I want my hard earned tax money to go to some rich guy deciding to buy the condo in Florida or the Bahamas? NO!!! I have to decide which bill to pay and which one I can wait on 'til next month!
There were of course commentators on the subject and most were in favor of Obama's idea to make the banks pay back those bonuses, but there was one guys who thinks the government should stay out of the banks business!
He had the audacity to say that government has no business telling the banks where they can or can't spend their money! First of all, it's not their money!!! They had to beg the government for a handout! Correct me if I'm wrong, but the banks did not get into this mess because they were frugal and saved their money for a rainy day! The big banks have squandered money away to the point where hard working Americans were on the brink of losing their jobs and risking putting us into a worse recession than we are in now!
If any company has to go to the government for a billion dollar bailout, I think "we the people" should have a right to say where that money is to be spent!
It just sickens me to think that these banks can continue with business as usual while hard working people have to make decisions on whether to buy milk this week or pay for medications!!!!!!
I am going to try and address just some of the issues that are REALLY bugging me.
THE BANK BAILOUT...
If you loan money to a company to help them out, should you be allowed to allocate where that money is to be spent? I mean, should the government have to tell the banks where they should spend the "borrowed" money or is it a no brainer? Personally I thought the money would be used to invest in things that would bring the value of those banks back into black. I certainly didn't think the banks would pay bonuses first!
Now, I am a single parent working two jobs, do I want my hard earned tax money to go to some rich guy deciding to buy the condo in Florida or the Bahamas? NO!!! I have to decide which bill to pay and which one I can wait on 'til next month!
There were of course commentators on the subject and most were in favor of Obama's idea to make the banks pay back those bonuses, but there was one guys who thinks the government should stay out of the banks business!
He had the audacity to say that government has no business telling the banks where they can or can't spend their money! First of all, it's not their money!!! They had to beg the government for a handout! Correct me if I'm wrong, but the banks did not get into this mess because they were frugal and saved their money for a rainy day! The big banks have squandered money away to the point where hard working Americans were on the brink of losing their jobs and risking putting us into a worse recession than we are in now!
If any company has to go to the government for a billion dollar bailout, I think "we the people" should have a right to say where that money is to be spent!
It just sickens me to think that these banks can continue with business as usual while hard working people have to make decisions on whether to buy milk this week or pay for medications!!!!!!
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
I'll keep holding on...
for something better.
Why is it the "older" songs still have so much power to say what you are afraid to say?
the past...
why do people insist on talking about the past?
why is it so hard to move forward?
Are they telling you to justify themselves? Is it that by telling the story over and over again they begin to feel better about themselves? And when is it enough? When is it ok to say, "enough already"!
Romantic relationships seem to be full of justification! More than once I've heard, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you". What do you do with that?
I have noticed with prior relationships that when the guy can't find what he is looking for, he comes back... why???? Those that don't come back, want to be "friends forever", why? The justification is always that the relationship was great while it was going on, and that we got along soooo well but let's just be friends now!!
I don't think any women truly wants to be friends with a guy that they were emotionally involved with, I don't think they want to hear about all the girlfriends, conquests, and listen to the inevitable question, "what do think I should do?".
I pride myself on being friends with almost all the guys I've dated, but I think I need to say that the idle chat, the shoulder to cry on, the voice that soothes your uneasiness must move on. Sorry.
why is it so hard to move forward?
Are they telling you to justify themselves? Is it that by telling the story over and over again they begin to feel better about themselves? And when is it enough? When is it ok to say, "enough already"!
Romantic relationships seem to be full of justification! More than once I've heard, "I love you, but I'm not in love with you". What do you do with that?
I have noticed with prior relationships that when the guy can't find what he is looking for, he comes back... why???? Those that don't come back, want to be "friends forever", why? The justification is always that the relationship was great while it was going on, and that we got along soooo well but let's just be friends now!!
I don't think any women truly wants to be friends with a guy that they were emotionally involved with, I don't think they want to hear about all the girlfriends, conquests, and listen to the inevitable question, "what do think I should do?".
I pride myself on being friends with almost all the guys I've dated, but I think I need to say that the idle chat, the shoulder to cry on, the voice that soothes your uneasiness must move on. Sorry.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Scent of a man...
You know what drives me absolutely crazy......
a man that wears a cologne that absolutely punctuates his personality!
the one cologne that really drives me up a wall and makes my legs and everything else quiver, Carolina Herrera for men!!! Holy Cow!!!!
And when a man sweats, and he's wearing cologne (and deodorant)... McDreamy, McSteamy, and all the rest Mc's.... all rolled in to one!
I have never been the one that goes for a guy based on his looks... it's the smell of him that will drive me crazy!! Or away, if a man has bad body odor...I'm out!!!
Smell seems to enhance the sexual experience too... I'm not sure that guys realize this about women. I would venture to say that most women would prefer a man that smells good during sex. I don't know that they have done a scientific experiment on this or not, but I would be willing to bet that women enjoy the experience more when a man is wearing a cologne that suits who he is!
I must say though, the only cologne's that make me want to run the other way are musky colognes... don't know why, but I will turn and run at the smell of musk!
So, men be aware... wear it and they will come! No pun intended :)
a man that wears a cologne that absolutely punctuates his personality!
the one cologne that really drives me up a wall and makes my legs and everything else quiver, Carolina Herrera for men!!! Holy Cow!!!!
And when a man sweats, and he's wearing cologne (and deodorant)... McDreamy, McSteamy, and all the rest Mc's.... all rolled in to one!
I have never been the one that goes for a guy based on his looks... it's the smell of him that will drive me crazy!! Or away, if a man has bad body odor...I'm out!!!
Smell seems to enhance the sexual experience too... I'm not sure that guys realize this about women. I would venture to say that most women would prefer a man that smells good during sex. I don't know that they have done a scientific experiment on this or not, but I would be willing to bet that women enjoy the experience more when a man is wearing a cologne that suits who he is!
I must say though, the only cologne's that make me want to run the other way are musky colognes... don't know why, but I will turn and run at the smell of musk!
So, men be aware... wear it and they will come! No pun intended :)
To fart or not to fart....
that is the question!
The older I get, the more tolerant I become of natural bodily functions! Why you might ask? Because they are happening to me at a much faster rate that I had anticipated! So... fart away!
I do think that people are still embarrassed by it, simply because you don't know if it's going to be a smelly one or not!
That brings me to another argument with couples, why don't they tell each other when something is not right? You would rather let your partner walk around with a nose hanger than simple motion that they have something hanging from their nose! Again I come back to the argument I had a few months ago about honesty. If you can't be honest about the little shit, how do expect someone to be honest about the big stuff.
The older I get, the more tolerant I become of natural bodily functions! Why you might ask? Because they are happening to me at a much faster rate that I had anticipated! So... fart away!
I do think that people are still embarrassed by it, simply because you don't know if it's going to be a smelly one or not!
That brings me to another argument with couples, why don't they tell each other when something is not right? You would rather let your partner walk around with a nose hanger than simple motion that they have something hanging from their nose! Again I come back to the argument I had a few months ago about honesty. If you can't be honest about the little shit, how do expect someone to be honest about the big stuff.
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